I know I haven't posted in here for a very long time, but new developments have happened and I felt I should share this. This is shared with permission from Loving More. Feel free to forward this message along to all you can think of.
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Loving More® is currently talking with Pilgrim Films about a polyamory reality show. Personally, I am not fond of reality shows but they are big right now and, like it or not, there will be reality shows on the subject. As a community we have the ability to influence how we are represented. By working together we can have an effect. Loving More is currently working with a few people within the poly community willing to do media appearances but we need more diversity.
This show is important. As of now they are looking for people who represent the majority of society; a family, raising kids in suburbia or some type of middle class poly folk. I know that many of us do not exactly fall in this category and some even resent that they are looking for that, but I am asking all of us to look at this as an opportunity to educate people in a real way. Poly people come in all shapes, orientations and classes of weirdness but if we want the public to take this movement seriously and make progress toward changing attitudes, then we need to help the average person open their mind. This is important for all of us who may have jobs, kids, family or other matters that can be affected by our choice of polyamory as a lifestyle. There are many poly people out there living in suburbia raising kids but few who feel safe to be out. Those who are willing to come out and talk to media are often not representative of the community as a whole but one small segment that many people can not relate to.
I get asked many repeating questions by the media that imply certain assumptions. One of the most common is the perception that poly people are long haired, granola eating hippies still living out their experience of the 60’s, or that we are sex addicted deviants. Is this the perception of polyamory you want portrayed? Does it really matter? Only when we show people another version will we change these preconceived ideas.
All of you can help in several ways:
1. By coming to Loving More when you are asked or considering a media appearance.
a. Let us help you by negotiating on your behalf. We are getting good at working with the media so that you are treated well, compensated for your time, and not ambushed. We can help you prepare for interviews or TV appearances.
2. By letting us know that you are willing to speak to the media and what kinds of media you are willing to do.
a. For this we need pictures and bios.
3. Is to let us know when you here of a documentary, talk show, or other media looking for poly people.
a. Chances are we have already heard from and talked to them but let us know anyway so we can help.
We are not here to tell you how you should do an interview or TV appearance but to simply help put your best foot forward. Talk shows, reality TV and similar shows are entertainment media out there to make money. They are not journalists and I feel sometimes it is easy to confuse the two. We also work with the journalistic media but it is a different media and in my experience they have been fair and easy to work with. TV entertainment shows thrive on sensationalism and they have their own agenda. What we want is to take advantage of the opportunity, influence the content, and minimize the exploitation.
We are a diverse community looking to change the possibilities in personal relationships, from our granola eating vegetarians to our sex crazed republicans. Working as a community we can have a real impact. If we are united they will have to at least meet us partway to get people for their needs. Change can happen and my wish is that polyamory becomes just another option in personal loving relationships.
Let us know if you or someone you know would be a good fit for this show and willing to do it. Also, if you are not up for this show but would be interested in something else, then share that with us. Email us with media in the subject line lovingmore@lovemore.com or call 303-543-7540.
Thanks for all your support and help
Robyn Trask
Loving More®
www.lovemore.com
Message: ----
Loving More® is currently talking with Pilgrim Films about a polyamory reality show. Personally, I am not fond of reality shows but they are big right now and, like it or not, there will be reality shows on the subject. As a community we have the ability to influence how we are represented. By working together we can have an effect. Loving More is currently working with a few people within the poly community willing to do media appearances but we need more diversity.
This show is important. As of now they are looking for people who represent the majority of society; a family, raising kids in suburbia or some type of middle class poly folk. I know that many of us do not exactly fall in this category and some even resent that they are looking for that, but I am asking all of us to look at this as an opportunity to educate people in a real way. Poly people come in all shapes, orientations and classes of weirdness but if we want the public to take this movement seriously and make progress toward changing attitudes, then we need to help the average person open their mind. This is important for all of us who may have jobs, kids, family or other matters that can be affected by our choice of polyamory as a lifestyle. There are many poly people out there living in suburbia raising kids but few who feel safe to be out. Those who are willing to come out and talk to media are often not representative of the community as a whole but one small segment that many people can not relate to.
I get asked many repeating questions by the media that imply certain assumptions. One of the most common is the perception that poly people are long haired, granola eating hippies still living out their experience of the 60’s, or that we are sex addicted deviants. Is this the perception of polyamory you want portrayed? Does it really matter? Only when we show people another version will we change these preconceived ideas.
All of you can help in several ways:
1. By coming to Loving More when you are asked or considering a media appearance.
a. Let us help you by negotiating on your behalf. We are getting good at working with the media so that you are treated well, compensated for your time, and not ambushed. We can help you prepare for interviews or TV appearances.
2. By letting us know that you are willing to speak to the media and what kinds of media you are willing to do.
a. For this we need pictures and bios.
3. Is to let us know when you here of a documentary, talk show, or other media looking for poly people.
a. Chances are we have already heard from and talked to them but let us know anyway so we can help.
We are not here to tell you how you should do an interview or TV appearance but to simply help put your best foot forward. Talk shows, reality TV and similar shows are entertainment media out there to make money. They are not journalists and I feel sometimes it is easy to confuse the two. We also work with the journalistic media but it is a different media and in my experience they have been fair and easy to work with. TV entertainment shows thrive on sensationalism and they have their own agenda. What we want is to take advantage of the opportunity, influence the content, and minimize the exploitation.
We are a diverse community looking to change the possibilities in personal relationships, from our granola eating vegetarians to our sex crazed republicans. Working as a community we can have a real impact. If we are united they will have to at least meet us partway to get people for their needs. Change can happen and my wish is that polyamory becomes just another option in personal loving relationships.
Let us know if you or someone you know would be a good fit for this show and willing to do it. Also, if you are not up for this show but would be interested in something else, then share that with us. Email us with media in the subject line lovingmore@lovemore.com or call 303-543-7540.
Thanks for all your support and help
Robyn Trask
Loving More®
www.lovemore.com
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Re: Call for unity against TV sensationalism
Wed, August 8, 2007 - 4:20 PMMy thought is that it isn't so much that "Reality Shows are big right now" as "Competitive Reality Shows are big right now." I'm not sure how a polyamorous competition would work. I would not want to see, for example, couples (or triads) competing to woo a third (or fourth).
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Re: Call for unity against TV sensationalism
Thu, August 9, 2007 - 12:18 AMI hate TV. I hate reality TV- But on the other hand I love to watch it with my gorgeous partner, who on the other hand loves TV( may be she loves TV more than me- joke!!- I hope). In the spirit of compromise, and in the hope of increasing my probability of intimate moments (e.g. cuddling, irreverent flirtatious conversation culminating in deep exploration of society vs. who we really are in our reality. And oh yeah - SEX) A quick aside - I always stop on the flava of love and think "holly shit". This is terrible- but I remember the channel that it is on and keep going back to see what happening next- I guess I like its entertainment. Does reality TV reflect REALITY- If you think so... well let it go and live your life with all its complexities and id that doesn't work seek medication. I know we all have color TVs (probably) but there is a Gregg Allman-ism that goes "its hard to tell the truth in black and white when you live your life in color". Live it baby, just live it.
I don’t care how many people volunteer, (1000 maybe) will it ever reflect what really happens in our lives?
I for two, don’t really care to represent a “presumed norm”. I like to forge a path that is not dictated or scripted, but purely mine/ours. BTW- I was asked to be on a couple of shows in the past (not this topic). I learned one thing- The producer rules. If they think it will sell, it will get printed/aired, regardless of the truth. Let’s not encourage THEM, in their attempt to sell, promulgate, and exploit presumed stereotypes.
This above all:
To thine own self be true,
for it must follow as dost the night the day,
that canst not then be false to any man.
- Shakespeare (Hamlet) inspired by Socrates (Know thyself).
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Re: Call for unity against TV sensationalism
Thu, August 9, 2007 - 9:14 AM>>1. By coming to Loving More when you are asked or considering a media appearance.
a. Let us help you by negotiating on your behalf. We are getting good at working with the media so that you are treated well, compensated for your time, and not ambushed. We can help you prepare for interviews or TV appearances.<<
I like Loving More's take on things generally but I don't necesarily want to appoint them the spokes-organization for all poly views. The thought of every poly channelling appearnaces through a magazine seems like a very controlling thing to ask for.
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Re: Call for unity against TV sensationalism
Fri, August 10, 2007 - 3:36 PMI love TV it's my second favorite drug,
Pots first then TV. I love the chaos it spreads the lies that become true. I love sex, so it's only natural
to watch TV just to see who's fucking me.
If all thing were true they would never have it on TV, so lies are better programming just look at it like that.
But so what if TV hates you, you hate TV sounds fair. And some of the people they put on with Poly views
would you have sex with them? They do find the creepy ones for sure, hey but that's funny.
And equal treatment, they also find the stupidest people of all or any beliefs look whose running for president.
So get down off that soap box and flow with it.
About this.
Loving More® is currently talking with Pilgrim Films about a polyamory reality show.
Wait till if ever this comes out. they'll make everyone look fucking stupid or no one will watch it.
Hey but that's cool, a whole movement built around sex is about as fucking stupid as one built around jesus....
Daniel
