Hello all.

My name is Andy, and I joined this tribe a few days ago. I used to be on PMM about three to four years ago and spoke with some great people there, though I haven't been to PMM for quite awhile. A friend and I have been considering rejoining, but our situation is a bit unusual so I thought I'd get some feedback before we jump in.

We're not a "couple" in the sense of being sex partners--We're both heterosexual males--but I don't consider us "just" friends either because our interests/outlook are very similar aside from some differences of emphasis. About three years ago we were in a triad of sorts with a woman. Unfortunately there were some misunderstandings and mistakes all around and things fell apart, but over the past couple of weeks we've been tentatively discussing trying something similar again as we've both learned a lot since then. We both tend to prefer a non-hierarchical arrangement rather than primary/secondary; we wouldn't be either seeking or avoiding sex above all else; we both understand, after our experiences both together and in separate relationships, that lack of communication screws things up royally no matter how many people are involved, so honesty is pretty important to us. Basically, we're seeking someone(s) who share some common interests with us, to communicate and see what happens from there based on what all feel comfortable with rather than a relationship "type." This brings me to my question.

Would it be better for us to join PMM together or separately...or at all? Has anyone else here tried anything similar, either through PMM or otherwise? Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks.
--Andy